The Role of a Father

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The role of a father is vital and paramount in determining how our children turn out. Don’t get me wrong, a mother’s role is as important in any family, hands down, but studies have shown that when a father is missing from a household, the likelihood of the children, especially the boys, acting out increases.

Did you know that:

  • the frequency of fathers that read to their children increases their children’s interest in books
  • fathers exert greater education influence than mothers on boys’ educational choices
  • fathers who are involved, nurturing and playful with their infants have children with highers IQs as well as better linguistic and cognitive capacities
  • 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.  (Criminal Justice & Behavior Vol 14. p 403-26)
  • 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept of Justice, Special Report, 1988)
  • 85% of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes

So how can we address this problem?

Firstly, the decision to have a child should be thought through in its entirety with your partner. Children are not accessories you pick up at the store. If you decide to become a parent, that child is your responsibility. You must do all that you can to ensure that that child has a bright and positive future. Parents should listen to their children. Give them chores at all levels to teach responsibility. Spend time doing the things they love to do — if the child is more interested in the performing arts, don’t force him/her to watch football every Sunday.

In closing, I leave you with two quotes:

It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.

~Ann Landers

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

~Theodore Hesburgh

 

Until next time…Namaste!

 

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Becoming a Better You: Your Perspective

It is not what happens to you that counts as much as how you perceive it. You can either be a victim of your history or a master of your destiny just by changing your perspective. One of the greatest discoveries in human nature is that you change your life by changing your perspectives and attitudes of mind.

— Dr J Demartini

They say everything in life happens for a reason and there is a lesson to be learned from each experience. I’ve had a few hard experiences that caused me to wonder what kind of lesson I could learn from them, but looking back, those experiences contributed to who I am today.

Do you have any similar experience that seemed like hell in the moment, but actually helped you some way or another in your life?

Until next time.

Namaste!

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