The Role of a Father

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The role of a father is vital and paramount in determining how our children turn out. Don’t get me wrong, a mother’s role is as important in any family, hands down, but studies have shown that when a father is missing from a household, the likelihood of the children, especially the boys, acting out increases.

Did you know that:

  • the frequency of fathers that read to their children increases their children’s interest in books
  • fathers exert greater education influence than mothers on boys’ educational choices
  • fathers who are involved, nurturing and playful with their infants have children with highers IQs as well as better linguistic and cognitive capacities
  • 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.  (Criminal Justice & Behavior Vol 14. p 403-26)
  • 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept of Justice, Special Report, 1988)
  • 85% of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes

So how can we address this problem?

Firstly, the decision to have a child should be thought through in its entirety with your partner. Children are not accessories you pick up at the store. If you decide to become a parent, that child is your responsibility. You must do all that you can to ensure that that child has a bright and positive future. Parents should listen to their children. Give them chores at all levels to teach responsibility. Spend time doing the things they love to do — if the child is more interested in the performing arts, don’t force him/her to watch football every Sunday.

In closing, I leave you with two quotes:

It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.

~Ann Landers

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

~Theodore Hesburgh


Until next time…Namaste!


The Man in My Life

Stubborn, Feisty, Troublesome, Smart.

Just a few words that described me as a child.


Study your book. Keep out of trouble.

But trouble follows me wherever I go. How can trouble keep out of it?

You clenched the belt as you asked Did you throw a stone in the man’s car?

Tears filled my eyes as you swung….

I hate you! Why don’t you just die and leave me alone!


You drove me to school every morning.

Brought me home every evening.

You were far from affluent, yet my stomach hardly ever growled.

Are you hungry? Thirsty? You asked.

What are you gonna eat I asked.

I’m OK. You replied.


In retrospect, I’m happy you didn’t die.

Happy you treated me the way you did.

You made me the man I am today.

The father I will be in the future.


I hardly say it …

I love you….DAD