Men’s Guide On How To Be a Better Boyfriend/Husband During Her Period


My girlfriend was seeing her period and I was wondering what I could do to ease her pain or at least comfort her throughout the process. So I turned to our dear friend Dr. Google for an answer and I found this article. It’s a really good read.


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I promised I’d write this for Poh Ching a long time ago and it’s finally time I live up to this! In this entry, I’d like to take some time to discuss ways to make your girlfriend or wife feel better shortly before or during her period. Let’s face it, most men rather avoid a woman while she is menstruating and that is too bad, because we should not ditch our second half just because she’s bleeding between her legs. Some men are opposed to my way of thinking, “being there for the girl” and rather, feel that they are more of a help if they just stay out of the way. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and every girl is different on how she wants to be treated or what makes her feel good. However, this entry will cover some things I feel might be ways you…

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Giving Thanks

Sometimes we get so caught up in the rigors of daily life that we forget to appreciate the simple blessings that life offers. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so let me use this opportunity to give thanks to the small blessings that I have received:

  • My Parents: For supporting and providing for me throughout my adolescence years, now I have the opportunity to give back.
    • The many meals they provided
    • The wisdom they’ve imparted
    • The sacrifices (financial & emotional) they’ve made


  • My Girlfriend: She came at an opportune time when I thought all hope was lost in finding an ideal partner. She’s loving, compassionate and supportive. If that in itself is not a blessing, I don’t know what is.
    • The big hug I got from her this morning. I could feel the love flowing through her into me
    • The muffin we shared because we we’re running late for church


  • My Job: Though it’s not ideal, it affords me  the opportunity to handle my responsibilities. A lot of persons are home sending out hundreds of resumes in hopes that they can get even a mediocre job so that they can take care of their expenses.

Each day is truly a blessing and to realize that, we must focus more on the positives. I know it’s easy to focus on the negative things that are happening in our lives because they’re in our face, but for every bad thing that has happened to us, there are three or more good things that has happened or will happen. It’s just a matter of perspective really.

As you go throughout your day, I leave you with this quote:

The more elevated the soul, the broader the outlook.

~Hazrat Khan




Being a Woman

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Could you at least stare at me when you’re talking and not at my chest?!
What’s up with those cheesy pickup lines. Can’t you try to be original?

Is it too much to ask to walk down the street without being verbally harassed

Do you want to get to know me, or just know enough to shag me?

Do my breasts or butt have a “grab me” sign on them?
When you look at me do you immediately think “inferior”, “weak”, “sex object“?

Another month…another week of cramps.
My emotions are heightened. I’m easily annoyed.
Why do you get upset when I’m being a cranky, hormonal bitch? Why can’t you understand that this is how I was made — emotions come with the territory.

You’re always horny.
Am I your real-life sex doll?
Why can’t you just sit and talk with me? Who cares if I shoot off a thousand words per minute.
You’re done already? What about me? I would like to have multiple orgasms too, if that’s too much to ask, then ONE will suffice. I like being caressed too.
Why is having a threesome with another guy suddenly taboo? You talk about having one with two girls all the time.
How about we spice things up a bit. Let’s have sex in the car park of the theatre.

After having some talks with some of my female friends, they shared some of the trials of being a woman. Ladies, feel free to add anything that I’ve missed. :)



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When you’re passionate about something, you always give it your best — mediocrity is an ingredient that’s not on the table.

Last Sunday a young woman sang at church. The passion in which she sang literally woke me from my slumber (a pastor gave a speech that had the same effect as taking 5ml of sedative). Her voice was majestic and my skin was covered with an armor of goose pimples. I hung on to every note that flowed from her lips. And that’s what passion is. Passion moves people. It causes them to walk away feeling good.

Sometimes, life causes us to forget or suppress our passion and we get stuck in jobs that we’re not passionate about. As a result, you may or may not give it your all. At that time you become robotic and scripted — living merely to pay bills and cover expenses. That’s no way to live, but then again, we have to pay our bills somehow.

What are you passionate about?


The Role of a Father

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The role of a father is vital and paramount in determining how our children turn out. Don’t get me wrong, a mother’s role is as important in any family, hands down, but studies have shown that when a father is missing from a household, the likelihood of the children, especially the boys, acting out increases.

Did you know that:

  • the frequency of fathers that read to their children increases their children’s interest in books
  • fathers exert greater education influence than mothers on boys’ educational choices
  • fathers who are involved, nurturing and playful with their infants have children with highers IQs as well as better linguistic and cognitive capacities
  • 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.  (Criminal Justice & Behavior Vol 14. p 403-26)
  • 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept of Justice, Special Report, 1988)
  • 85% of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes

So how can we address this problem?

Firstly, the decision to have a child should be thought through in its entirety with your partner. Children are not accessories you pick up at the store. If you decide to become a parent, that child is your responsibility. You must do all that you can to ensure that that child has a bright and positive future. Parents should listen to their children. Give them chores at all levels to teach responsibility. Spend time doing the things they love to do — if the child is more interested in the performing arts, don’t force him/her to watch football every Sunday.

In closing, I leave you with two quotes:

It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.

~Ann Landers

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

~Theodore Hesburgh


Until next time…Namaste!


The Pound of Flesh


Check out this sexy poem. :)

P.S. No kids allowed.

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I gambled with hearts of men

They thought they would get the ultimate prize

That thing I possessed- My special emblem

But it was all to their demise, they would not get this prize.

It was different though when I met you

You caught my attention when my eyes were misty blue

I was caught up in your lust.

In my mind it felt so just.


Oh baby! Yes right there!

I love it when you pull my hair!

Soft wet kisses so sweet as a candy cane.

Oh, I’m trying my best to abstain

But from you I cannot refrain

When you kiss me high and kiss me low

Anywhere you do it, it feels like I’m about to blow.

You hold my hands and enter soft terrains

My lips open and is filled with a kiss.

As you continue, it begins to rain-

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What Is Love?

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A shoulder to lean on...
A comforter...
A healer...
A destroyer...
Kindness in this cruel world...
It makes you be who you are..
It's pride-less...
It's self-less...
It's never-ending...
It's all flowing...
It's kind...
It's patient...
It's tolerant...
It's impulsive...

It’s saying the right thing at the right moment.

It’s that warm embrace.

The kiss on the forehead.

The crazy pet peeves.

The long strolls, holding hands.

The PDAs (covers face).

The time spent together doing nothing. Just relaxing in each others arms.