Sex is great. It’s one of the greatest acts that man could engage in. Is sex wrong? A very loaded question.
Believers vs Non-believers
For a non-believer, of course not! How can something that’s so natural ever be “wrong”? I can empathize, truly I can. But for a christian, it’s not right. Why? Why should non-believers have all that fun…
The Book of Guidelines
…Because Christians are given a book which outlines how s/he should live his/her life as best as possible — granted as a christian you will falter along the way because we’re still human — if you want to inherit the Kingdom of Heaven — a Christian’s ultimate goal.
1 Thessalonian chapter 4 tells us [Christians] that our sanctification is the will of God and that we should abstain from sexual immorality because the Lord called us [Christians] not for sexual immorality, but for holiness and honor and if we disregard this, we disregard not man but God who gave his spirit onto us.
I believe that some Christians are too judgmental and hypocritical. The same can be said for non-believers. When one Christians condemns something, you guys [non-Christians] cast a huge net on all Christians and condemn everything we say or do.
We all were blessed with the gift of life, and we all have to live it as we see fit. Christians live their lives according to the will of God, and non-Christians live their lives as they see fit. However, it is written in the Book of Guidelines that a Christian should always try and help out his brother, that’s why some Christians tend to “preach” to non-Christians.
Everyone is different. We won’t necessarily share the same thoughts on topical issues. When we ALL (Christians and non-Christians alike) begin to truly accept that, and start focusing on the bigger issues, as Jefferson said; the world will truly be a better place.
Sometimes we get so caught up in the rigors of daily life that we forget to appreciate the simple blessings that life offers. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so let me use this opportunity to give thanks to the small blessings that I have received:
My Parents: For supporting and providing for me throughout my adolescence years, now I have the opportunity to give back.
The many meals they provided
The wisdom they’ve imparted
The sacrifices (financial & emotional) they’ve made
My Girlfriend: She came at an opportune time when I thought all hope was lost in finding an ideal partner. She’s loving, compassionate and supportive. If that in itself is not a blessing, I don’t know what is.
The big hug I got from her this morning. I could feel the love flowing through her into me
The muffin we shared because we we’re running late for church
My Job: Though it’s not ideal, it affords me the opportunity to handle my responsibilities. A lot of persons are home sending out hundreds of resumes in hopes that they can get even a mediocre job so that they can take care of their expenses.
Each day is truly a blessing and to realize that, we must focus more on the positives. I know it’s easy to focus on the negative things that are happening in our lives because they’re in our face, but for every bad thing that has happened to us, there are three or more good things that has happened or will happen. It’s just a matter of perspective really.
As you go throughout your day, I leave you with this quote:
The more elevated the soul, the broader the outlook.
The role of a father is vital and paramount in determining how our children turn out. Don’t get me wrong, a mother’s role is as important in any family, hands down, but studies have shown that when a father is missing from a household, the likelihood of the children, especially the boys, acting out increases.
Did you know that:
the frequency of fathers that read to their children increases their children’s interest in books
fathers exert greater education influence than mothers on boys’ educational choices
fathers who are involved, nurturing and playful with their infants have children with highers IQs as well as better linguistic and cognitive capacities
70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept of Justice, Special Report, 1988)
85% of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes
So how can we address this problem?
Firstly, the decision to have a child should be thought through in its entirety with your partner. Children are not accessories you pick up at the store. If you decide to become a parent, that child is your responsibility. You must do all that you can to ensure that that child has a bright and positive future. Parents should listen to their children. Give them chores at all levels to teach responsibility. Spend time doing the things they love to do — if the child is more interested in the performing arts, don’t force him/her to watch football every Sunday.
In closing, I leave you with two quotes:
It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.
A shoulder to lean on...
Kindness in this cruel world...It makes you be who you are..
It's all flowing...
It’s saying the right thing at the right moment.
It’s that warm embrace.
The kiss on the forehead.
The crazy pet peeves.
The long strolls, holding hands.
The PDAs (covers face).
The time spent together doing nothing. Just relaxing in each others arms.
That passage is so rigid. Is it impossible for a non-christian to be with a christian and have a healthy relationship? I find that some of the text in the bible is a bit extreme. For example, in the above passage, unbelievers (hate that word because you can be a believer but not a christian) non-Christians are described as lawless and dark. I haven’t done a survey or gathered statistical data on the issue, but I’m sure that there are some really pure at heart non-Christians in the world. Some even purer that Christians (thunder crackling).
So I asked someone to explain this strict passage and they said that when you’re in an unequally yoked relationship (a christian and a non-christian), though the relationship might be great, you [the christian] will not grow “spiritually”. For example, when the christian in the relationship is falling short in faith, what can the non-christian do? They will not be able to offer that spiritual support rock that the christian needs. The non-christian cannot intercede on their partner’s behalf because he/she lacks the spiritual conviction needed to do so. Hmm…
After reading the article I started thinking, why would a woman be with a man (I use that word very loosely) like that? Weren’t there signs that he was an insecure psychopath?
How low on the evolution spectrum can you be to feel jealous of a three-year old child to the point where you feel the need to abuse that child to death!!
I noticed that when dealing with affairs of the heart, people tend to be a tad irrational — I’m guilty as charged in that regard. We find ourselves hooking up with people that are far from ‘ideal’ and doing things that we never thought we would or could ever do. But can someone be so smitten and blinded by love that they put up and turn a blind eye to certain deviant behavior? Now matter how good we are at deception, our true self will be revealed in time. There must have been some signs that would suggest that the man is a psychopath. Right?
So I was invited to church today. The last time I was at church was … I can’t remember the last time I was at church — bad, I know. I had my reservations about going, but I went nonetheless, albeit kick and screaming … in my head.
It’s a nice way to start the week. A change to my normal modus operandi. Most of us have a lot to be thankful for. My primary reason for not going to church though, was that I am of the view that you don’t have to physically attend a place of worship to give God (or whomever you worship) thanks and give praise. A relationship with God (or whomever) is not and should not be restricted to a building.
Suffice it to say, it turned out quite well. Today’s lesson was about sex — one of the many topics I am passionate about. The guest speaker described the body as “aesthetically appealing” for unmarried couples — a beautiful thing to be admired at a distance. And for married folks, she stressed the importance of pleasing their spouse. For married folks, their body is “aesthetically pleasing”. The husband’s body belongs to his wife and vice versa. Wives should always try and please their husbands and so too must the husband. Its a partnership.
As I there sitting in the pew observing, I realized that not much has changed though since my last visit. The congregation was quite vocal and passionate when it came to singing and the pastor did that thing where his altar call speech sounded like it was written with you in mind!
Did I mention that it rained when I got home? A sign maybe? 🙂 😆