The role of a father is vital and paramount in determining how our children turn out. Don’t get me wrong, a mother’s role is as important in any family, hands down, but studies have shown that when a father is missing from a household, the likelihood of the children, especially the boys, acting out increases.
Did you know that:
- the frequency of fathers that read to their children increases their children’s interest in books
- fathers exert greater education influence than mothers on boys’ educational choices
- fathers who are involved, nurturing and playful with their infants have children with highers IQs as well as better linguistic and cognitive capacities
- 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes. (Criminal Justice & Behavior Vol 14. p 403-26)
- 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept of Justice, Special Report, 1988)
- 85% of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes
So how can we address this problem?
Firstly, the decision to have a child should be thought through in its entirety with your partner. Children are not accessories you pick up at the store. If you decide to become a parent, that child is your responsibility. You must do all that you can to ensure that that child has a bright and positive future. Parents should listen to their children. Give them chores at all levels to teach responsibility. Spend time doing the things they love to do — if the child is more interested in the performing arts, don’t force him/her to watch football every Sunday.
In closing, I leave you with two quotes:
It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.
The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.
Until next time…Namaste!
- Father to the Fatherless (p31abundantlife.wordpress.com)
- Not Just Provide and Reside: Engaged Fathers in Low-Income Families (diaaandra21.wordpress.com)
- The Fatherless (2ferquarterly.org)
- Fatherhood: Mission Possible (Through God) (heavenminded1.wordpress.com)
- My story: The Shame of Fatherlessness (writingundercover.wordpress.com)
- The Fatherless Child (estherredd316.wordpress.com)
- Can you fix fatherlessness with generous social programs and male role models? (winteryknight.wordpress.com)