Being a Woman

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Men
Could you at least stare at me when you’re talking and not at my chest?!
What’s up with those cheesy pickup lines. Can’t you try to be original?

Is it too much to ask to walk down the street without being verbally harassed

Do you want to get to know me, or just know enough to shag me?

Do my breasts or butt have a “grab me” sign on them?
When you look at me do you immediately think “inferior”, “weak”, “sex object“?

Menstrual
Another month…another week of cramps.
My emotions are heightened. I’m easily annoyed.
Why do you get upset when I’m being a cranky, hormonal bitch? Why can’t you understand that this is how I was made — emotions come with the territory.

Sex
You’re always horny.
Am I your real-life sex doll?
Why can’t you just sit and talk with me? Who cares if I shoot off a thousand words per minute.
You’re done already? What about me? I would like to have multiple orgasms too, if that’s too much to ask, then ONE will suffice. I like being caressed too.
Why is having a threesome with another guy suddenly taboo? You talk about having one with two girls all the time.
How about we spice things up a bit. Let’s have sex in the car park of the theatre.

After having some talks with some of my female friends, they shared some of the trials of being a woman. Ladies, feel free to add anything that I’ve missed. :)

 

Vous êtes nos femmes

OK, so you guys might remember in some distant post I mentioned that I will be studying French. Well, I still am. And it’s so much fun. I am teaching myself through this awesome website — www.duolinguo.com. You can learn other languages on it as well like Spanish, German, Italian etc.

Anyway, the title — vous êtes nos femmes, translates to “You are our wives”. Someone (who from here henceforth, we shall call SmartGuy) commented:

General rule I find works: if it’s sounding a bit misogynistic/chauvinistic to say “woman/women”, “wife/wives” is probably a more appropriate translation.

 

I thought to myself, either SmartGuy doesn’t understand the meaning of the word misogyny, or he/she wants to appear smart. So, because I’m just an average Joe, I decided to look up the definition of the word:

mi·sog·y·ny

noun \mə-ˈsä-jə-nē\

 

: reflecting or exhibiting hatred, dislike, mistrust, or

mistreatment of women.

 

Still perplexed by the sheer complexity of SmartGuys analysis, I saw this comment from (we’ll call this person NormalGuy):

I totally disagree that “our women” is misogynistic. In fact, the presumption that the word “our” (possessive) converts women to wives is what is misogynistic. What would I do if I were speaking at a gathering of women professionals, and I wanted to say something like: “You, the members of this organization, you are our women, and we hope…” I hear stuff like this all the time. “Wives” is clearly inappropriate in this context.

 

I agree with NormalGuy’s point. That loose translation would be offensive in certain setting. For years, women have fought to be acknowledged as men’s equal and after all they have accomplished with regards to equality, to be labeled as mere “wives” on a whim would just be intolerable.

Feel free to chime in.

Until next time…Namaste!

 

 

Dedicated to all good men

Most of my post have been about equal rights to all especially towards women and others who are different from us. Someone made a comment on one of my post accusing me of being a “feministic moron”. I deleted it. Although I believe  everyone is entitled to their own opinion and not everyone will agree with what I have to say and I have no control over that. I accept that. But what I do have control over is my blog, and what gets accepted :). I will not entertain any negativity on my blog space.

Everyone loves their mother, but what about the fathers? There are some really GOOD men out there and then some. I often hear women complain about not finding the right man, or that they’re giving up on relationships because the last one they were in was shitty. I think sometimes our expectations are too high – he’s not handsome enough, or tall enough or muscular enough. Look past the surface. Is he kind to others? Does he treat and respect women? How does he treat his mother (very telling)? Does he cook? etc.

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My father is awesome. He taught me the value of hard work. He was strict (when needs be). He always showed interest in my school work, whether he understood it or not. That man would beat me silly to take school word seriously. In retrospect, that’s kind of why I’m where I am in my life now. He understood the value of education (even though his stopped at junior high). He was always around and he took good care of me as a child. The things he taught me I will pass on to my son (or daughter). I will be the best husband and father I can be because of him.

Without a father in the house, it’s easy for a child to turn towards violence. Granted it’s possible to bring up a good child as a single parent, but it’s much harder. So this post is for all the good men out there. Those that stick to it through thick and thin. Those that make time for their child/children and wife. Those that don’t abuse their woman or any other woman.

PS: Ladies, if you’re complaining about not finding the right man or that there are no good man out there, get off you high horse. YOUR right man might be closer than you think.

Respect and love to all the GOOD men out there.

Peace!

I LOVE you for YOUR MIND

Image via Flickr

I found the above image on flickr. It was done by Martin Krzywinski.

I had the image of shooting a striptease and removing the body, keeping only items of decoration: clothing and makeup.

I guess I’m trying to convince you that there’s more to a person than the garb they are wearing.

 

Happy Woman’s Day

This Is A Man’s World Lyrics

This is a man’s world, this is a man’s world
But it wouldn’t be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl

You see, man made the cars to take us over the road
Man made the trains to carry heavy loads
Man made electric light to take us out of the dark
Man made the boat for the water, like Noah made the ark

This is a man’s, a man’s, a man’s world
But it wouldn’t be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl

Man thinks about a little baby girls and a baby boys
Man makes then happy ’cause man makes them toys
And after man has made everything, everything he can
You know that man makes money to buy from other man

This is a man’s world
But it wouldn’t be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl

He’s lost in the wilderness
He’s lost in bitterness

Happy Woman’s DAY! After all women should be celebrated EVERYDAY, right? :D

Are men more emotional than women?

We all know that women are emotional beings – they are fuelled by it. This is even intensified during their time of the month. But what about their male counterparts? Are men as emotional as women, but they just mask it with testosterone?

“Boys should not cry. Only little girls cry”. I’ve heard that shit so often being drilled into little boys’ ears. Is it wrong for a male to be emotional?

Society dictates that our young men be tough. As a result males try to avoid certain behaviour like crying or being overly mushy because it will go against societal norms. Because most men try to hide their true emotions, when men love, they love deeply and conversely, when we’re hurt, it cuts real deep.

Let me hear you. Do you think men are more emotional than women?

 

How to cheat and not get caught

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People cheat for various reasons. Maybe the cheater explorer is feeling unappreciated, emasculated, used or curious. In my experience, there is always a reason that leads to unfaithfulness.

Men

Text Messages

Men are very simple creatures with simple desires. Men love to feel like they’re in charge (feel like a man). They also love to feel wanted, and so, if their woman isn’t delivering, then they’re going to find someone that will. Now guys, if you’re going to have an affair, stick to calling. No TEXT MESSAGES please. I know it’s a turn on when you get a rude text and you want to look at it over and over to relive the moment, but remember that you’re cheating (its called an affair for a reason you know).

 

Set Boundaries

You can’t be at home with your partner and having the partner-in-cheat calling you at odd hours. And don’t you think it will be too obvious whenever you get a call, you suddenly need to take out the trash or you need to go to the grocery store? Set time limits.

The Giveaway Scent

Guys, if you live with your partner, chances are she is going to get familiar with your scent. After a heated session with your partner-in-cheat, you can’t come home smelling like Chanel No. 19. If you’re going to visit your partner-in-cheat, keep a bottle of your favorite cologne in your briefcase mate.

 

In the bedroom

If you’re a reserved person, then coming home one night collar loose, with briefcase in one hand and whipped cream in the other will raise some red flags. Baby steps mate. Baby steps.

 

Women

It is said that women are better at cheating than men. With that said, this will be short.

Keep doing what you’re doing. :)

Note

It should be noted that affairs are temporary. What makes an affair so interesting and “hot” is the fact that it is new. Before having an affair, it would be in your best interest to talk to your partner about any problems you’re having in the relationship. There is nothing sillier than getting upset over something your partner has no knowledge of.

 

DISCLAIMER: The above post is not to be mistaken as something Amor24 did or will ever do. The relationship that Amor24 is in is far too perfect for him to even give such actions a first not to mention second thought. Amor24 thinks that people who engage in such acts are cowards and mentally emotionally unstable.

 

Are Women REALLY the Weaker Sex?

I did some research on the topic of whether or not women are really the weaker sex. I found some analysis on the biological and molecular level. however, there is NO need to go that deep to arrive at a conclusion. If we really look at the activities and responsibilities of both sexes, a toddler could come to an obvious conclusion.

Let’s start with some definitions. Note though, that these definitions may be overly simplified.

Women:  The sex that is capable of giving birth, nurturing, and master multitask-er.

Men: The catalyst of women’s problems

 

 

I watched a video recently about The Tale of the Two Brains by Mark Gundor that really summed up why women are so skilled at managing competing activities and remembering EVERYTHING. Mark says that women’s brain is like an information superhighway – EVERYTHING is connected to EVERYTHING. A woman would be able to tell you what time the kids school is over, when the kids have a field trip, what she’s cooking for dinner, and what’s she going to wear to work the next day.

 

A man however, being very simple creatures with simple desires, our brain is setup to reflect that. Our brain is VERY compartmentalized with “boxes”. If we’re going to talk about a particular topic, we only go into that box and that box only. If you’re talking about the kids, we will go into the box labeled kids. If you are talking about the car, we go into the box labeled car etc. It is because of this compartmentalization why we suck at multitasking and always end up in problems with our women.

 

Without women, MEN would not exist. So in essence we are living in a woman’s world, NOT the other way around. How did man become “superior”? Women are superheroes and should be treated as a MAN’s equal. I can’t think of any job (maybe you can) that a man can do that a woman can’t. In Saudi Arabia, for the first time in history, they are allowing women to vote in 2015. What took you guys so long!? Were you afraid that women would hold all the senior positions in parliament?At least it’s a step forward in the right direction, because in that same country, it’s against the law for a woman to drive. HELLO!!!

 

So are men really the weaker sex…did I change the question ;)…

You tell me :)

 

 

Only Girl In The World [Part 3]

How To Treat Your Woman Like a Princess

[Part 3]

[Part 2]

act like a man

Will Smith & Jada Pinkett-Smith

5. Act like A Man: Women like to feel protected. A man must act like a man and all that the title of MAN  implies – HUSBAND, FATHER, PROTECTOR, CAREGIVER. It’s NEVER acceptable to put your hand on your, or any, woman. Earlier I said that we are simple and that women should be specific when requesting things. But here’s the honest truth. You can’t expect your partner to do everything. You have to help out with a lot of things. You’re in it together. Man up. Clean the house BEFORE she even ask. After being surprised with the clean house, she might even surprise you ;)

It’s a fact that when a man acts like a man, your woman will be more open and confident in you. It’s less likely that she will cheat on you, and the bond between you will grow stronger :)

cheating

6. Cheating: I woman can know when her man is cheating. I can’t really explain it. It’s just one of their MANY gifts. Men are natural predators. Even in relationships, we have a tendency to flirt and carry on. I am guilty of this (flirty that is. Had to clear that up just in case she’s reading this). I’m a serial flirter. What’s unacceptable though is transitioning from flirting to affair. Try and contain the Tarzan in you. It’s really unfair to the woman you’re with. Let’s be real, it’s only natural to be attracted to people other than our partners. My partner said something quite provocative to me once. She said if she sees a guy that may pose a “threat” (meaning, having similar characteristics) to me, then she try and avoid that person. Guys, you could do something similar.

Some women go crazy when they find out their man is cheating

And that’s my last piece. Follow these steps and you’ll have one happy woman….until it’s that time of the month again :)

Sincerely,

Concerned Man

Only Girl In the World [Part 2]

How to Treat you Woman Like a Princess

[Part 2]

[Part 1]

3. Being Appreciated: Women like to feel appreciated. If you’re going out and she spends 2hrs getting ready leaving only 30mins to get to the location, don’t get upset. She’s dolling up for YOU. She wants you to notice that she looks gorgeous and TELL her. If you don’t, she’s going to spend the entire night thinking that you don’t care.

appreciated

If she always comes home from work and cook dinner for you, try switching it up a bit. Get off work early so you can go home and prepare a romantic candlelight dinner for her. Her favorite music playing in the background and you greet her as she comes home in your best tuxedo and a white rose….for example of course :)

Most women like simple gestures. So you could send her a box of chocolates at her office with a simple Just because it’s Thursday note.

Oh, and when you’re walking on the road with your woman by your side, don’t stare at the woman that just passed with the big ass. Let your woman feel like she’s the only girl in the world.

4. Sex: Fellows, there is nothing that dry’s up a woman quicker than routine sexual activity. Lil Flip’s song ‘sunshine’ says:

“I need a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets
That know how to cook cause a nigga like to eat
Spaghetti, shrimp and steak and I’ll adore you
I’ll treat you like milk, I’ll do nothing but spoil you”

The same applies for us guys. Our women likes a man that can take charge and handle his business right in the bedroom. Provide heights of pleasure that cause her to get wet every time she thinks about it. I have yet to meet a woman that doesn’t like when you eat the exotic fruit, but experiment to find out what she likes and what she doesn’t. Whipped Cream maybe ;)

Sincerely,

Concerned Man