Passion

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When you’re passionate about something, you always give it your best — mediocrity is an ingredient that’s not on the table.

Last Sunday a young woman sang at church. The passion in which she sang literally woke me from my slumber (a pastor gave a speech that had the same effect as taking 5ml of sedative). Her voice was majestic and my skin was covered with an armor of goose pimples. I hung on to every note that flowed from her lips. And that’s what passion is. Passion moves people. It causes them to walk away feeling good.

Sometimes, life causes us to forget or suppress our passion and we get stuck in jobs that we’re not passionate about. As a result, you may or may not give it your all. At that time you become robotic and scripted — living merely to pay bills and cover expenses. That’s no way to live, but then again, we have to pay our bills somehow.

What are you passionate about?

 

The Role of a Father

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The role of a father is vital and paramount in determining how our children turn out. Don’t get me wrong, a mother’s role is as important in any family, hands down, but studies have shown that when a father is missing from a household, the likelihood of the children, especially the boys, acting out increases.

Did you know that:

  • the frequency of fathers that read to their children increases their children’s interest in books
  • fathers exert greater education influence than mothers on boys’ educational choices
  • fathers who are involved, nurturing and playful with their infants have children with highers IQs as well as better linguistic and cognitive capacities
  • 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.  (Criminal Justice & Behavior Vol 14. p 403-26)
  • 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept of Justice, Special Report, 1988)
  • 85% of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes

So how can we address this problem?

Firstly, the decision to have a child should be thought through in its entirety with your partner. Children are not accessories you pick up at the store. If you decide to become a parent, that child is your responsibility. You must do all that you can to ensure that that child has a bright and positive future. Parents should listen to their children. Give them chores at all levels to teach responsibility. Spend time doing the things they love to do — if the child is more interested in the performing arts, don’t force him/her to watch football every Sunday.

In closing, I leave you with two quotes:

It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.

~Ann Landers

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

~Theodore Hesburgh

 

Until next time…Namaste!

 

The Pound of Flesh

RC:

Check out this sexy poem. :)

P.S. No kids allowed.

Originally posted on roxanaya:

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I gambled with hearts of men

They thought they would get the ultimate prize

That thing I possessed- My special emblem

But it was all to their demise, they would not get this prize.

It was different though when I met you

You caught my attention when my eyes were misty blue

I was caught up in your lust.

In my mind it felt so just.

………

Oh baby! Yes right there!

I love it when you pull my hair!

Soft wet kisses so sweet as a candy cane.

Oh, I’m trying my best to abstain

But from you I cannot refrain

When you kiss me high and kiss me low

Anywhere you do it, it feels like I’m about to blow.

You hold my hands and enter soft terrains

My lips open and is filled with a kiss.

As you continue, it begins to rain-

In places I’ve never…

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What Is Love?

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A shoulder to lean on...
A comforter...
A healer...
A destroyer...
Kindness in this cruel world...
It makes you be who you are..
It's pride-less...
It's self-less...
It's never-ending...
It's all flowing...
It's kind...
It's patient...
It's tolerant...
It's impulsive...

It’s saying the right thing at the right moment.

It’s that warm embrace.

The kiss on the forehead.

The crazy pet peeves.

The long strolls, holding hands.

The PDAs (covers face).

The time spent together doing nothing. Just relaxing in each others arms.

Unequally Yoked

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2 Corinthians 6:14 says:

14. Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?

15. Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?

That passage is so rigid. Is it impossible for a non-christian to be with a christian and have a healthy relationship? I find that some of the text in the bible is a bit extreme. For example, in the above passage, unbelievers (hate that word because you can be a believer but not a christian) non-Christians are described as lawless and dark. I haven’t done a survey or gathered statistical data on the issue, but I’m sure that there are some really pure at heart non-Christians in the world. Some even purer that Christians (thunder crackling).

So I asked someone to explain this strict passage and they said that when you’re in an unequally yoked relationship (a christian and a non-christian), though the relationship might be great, you [the christian] will not grow “spiritually”. For example, when the christian in the relationship is falling short in faith, what can the non-christian do? They will not be able to offer that spiritual support rock that the christian needs. The non-christian cannot intercede on their partner’s behalf because he/she lacks the spiritual conviction needed to do so. Hmm…

What are your thoughts on the matter?

Until next time….namaste!

Vous êtes nos femmes

OK, so you guys might remember in some distant post I mentioned that I will be studying French. Well, I still am. And it’s so much fun. I am teaching myself through this awesome website — www.duolinguo.com. You can learn other languages on it as well like Spanish, German, Italian etc.

Anyway, the title — vous êtes nos femmes, translates to “You are our wives”. Someone (who from here henceforth, we shall call SmartGuy) commented:

General rule I find works: if it’s sounding a bit misogynistic/chauvinistic to say “woman/women”, “wife/wives” is probably a more appropriate translation.

 

I thought to myself, either SmartGuy doesn’t understand the meaning of the word misogyny, or he/she wants to appear smart. So, because I’m just an average Joe, I decided to look up the definition of the word:

mi·sog·y·ny

noun \mə-ˈsä-jə-nē\

 

: reflecting or exhibiting hatred, dislike, mistrust, or

mistreatment of women.

 

Still perplexed by the sheer complexity of SmartGuys analysis, I saw this comment from (we’ll call this person NormalGuy):

I totally disagree that “our women” is misogynistic. In fact, the presumption that the word “our” (possessive) converts women to wives is what is misogynistic. What would I do if I were speaking at a gathering of women professionals, and I wanted to say something like: “You, the members of this organization, you are our women, and we hope…” I hear stuff like this all the time. “Wives” is clearly inappropriate in this context.

 

I agree with NormalGuy’s point. That loose translation would be offensive in certain setting. For years, women have fought to be acknowledged as men’s equal and after all they have accomplished with regards to equality, to be labeled as mere “wives” on a whim would just be intolerable.

Feel free to chime in.

Until next time…Namaste!

 

 

Psychopath | Affairs of the heart

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My friend shared a very upsetting story with me the other day. The entire story is repulsive, but what was more shocking was the highlighted part:

A three-year-old girl suffered a fatal brain injury after her head was allegedly slammed against a wall by her mother’s boyfriend.

‘Bright and bubbly’ Lylah Aaron was kicked, slapped and punched in the head by Delroy Catwell, Sheffield Crown Court heard.

Catwell is said to have been jealous that the toddler was getting more attention from her mother than he was.

Lylah was found to have four broken ribs and the prosecution claim she was assaulted by Catwell several weeks before she died in February.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2471379/Sheffield-girl-Lylah-Aaron-3-killed-mothers-jealous-boyfriend-Delroy-Catwell-slammed-head-wall.html#ixzz2iwIAe8Zj 
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After reading the article I started thinking, why would a woman be with a man (I use that word very loosely) like that? Weren’t there signs that he was an insecure psychopath?

How low on the evolution spectrum can you be to feel jealous of a three-year old child to the point where you feel the need to abuse that child to death!!

I noticed that when dealing with affairs of the heart, people tend to be a tad irrational — I’m guilty as charged in that regard. We find ourselves hooking up with people that are far from ‘ideal’ and doing things that we never thought we would or could ever do. But can someone be so smitten and blinded by love that they put up and turn a blind eye to certain deviant behavior? Now matter how good we are at deception, our true self will be revealed in time. There must have been some signs that would suggest that the man is a psychopath. Right?

Just sharing my meandering thoughts.

Until next time … namaste!