Homeless Man Experiment

I found a video while scrolling through Facebook of an experiment carried out by a dude with a homeless man (Sandy). The video shows Sandy immaculately dressed and groomed like a business person. He went on the street, while pretending to be on a phone call, and stopped random persons asking them for change to buy food or to take the subway. Dressed as the business person, everyone he stopped tried to help him out. One man even gave him 5 bucks. Sandy then changed into his raggedy clothes and went back and not surprisingly, no one gave him any money. What was really interesting was when Sandy stopped a fellow homeless man, and he too was willing to give Sandy money.

I’m curious about why this is so. What’s the psychology behind this behavior? Why are we more willing to help the needy that the poor and homeless? Let me hear your thoughts.

Here’s the video:

 

 

 

Watch your thoughts…

My last post was triggered by a video I saw on YouTube about “Sexual Healing“, in which I decided to make a response and share my thoughts.

I was attacked by an Atheist. Here’s his comment:

+Omar Genas “we should abstain from sexual immorality”

- the only reason you call something sexually immoral is because god told you it was wrong. But he doesn’t give you a reason.. just an order.

Sorry, your reason for thinking something is immoral or not is a profoundly stupid one. It renders you into a moral idiot. And that, my friends is why we have religious wars. You get your morality from AUTHORITY and NOT from reason. THAT is stupid morality I think it’s completely DISGUSTING.

as for lumping all Christians together.. stop whining. You do the same thing when you talk about atheists, you moron. OF COURSE we have to generalize. Not everybody is the same. Now go get a cookie.

 

When I saw his comment I smiled as I thought this person seems so angry. All his comments on YouTube seems like an attack on Christians and believers all over. Morality is completely subjective and biased. Your reason for believing something is “right” or “wrong” is dependent on your perspective in life. I have a friend who is an Atheist and we’ve had several constructive debates about our beliefs, and at the end of the day, we’re STILL friends. I told him [Mr YouTuber] that he’s a bigot and that I am leaving to go have my cookie :)

In life you have to just accept that everyone will not agree with whatever you’re saying. Some persons are just negative and their sole purpose in life is to tear down others. This is easily identified on YouTube when you see people disliking the most innocent of videos and then you think: what on earth is there to dislike about this. For example, this video, shows a father helping his son across the finish line after he tore his hamstring. The video got over two thousand dislikes.

YouTube is an excellent platform which allows everyone to express themselves creatively or otherwise. Consider this scenario: A shy kid posted a video of himself learning to ride a bike. He fell a few times but he kept at it. When he check his page a day later he noticed a host of comments, not encouraging him to keep trying or pointers on how to stay on the bike longer, but instead comments jeering him and telling him to quit because he sucks. What do you think will happen to that kids confidence?

It is often said that if you have nothing good to say, then say nothing. Constructive criticism is always good as it serves to make the individual better at whatever task they’re engaged in. Sometimes its best to leave negative people alone because the only thing you can get from such a relationship is misery.

Until next time….namaste!

Giving Thanks

Sometimes we get so caught up in the rigors of daily life that we forget to appreciate the simple blessings that life offers. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so let me use this opportunity to give thanks to the small blessings that I have received:

  • My Parents: For supporting and providing for me throughout my adolescence years, now I have the opportunity to give back.
    • The many meals they provided
    • The wisdom they’ve imparted
    • The sacrifices (financial & emotional) they’ve made

 

  • My Girlfriend: She came at an opportune time when I thought all hope was lost in finding an ideal partner. She’s loving, compassionate and supportive. If that in itself is not a blessing, I don’t know what is.
    • The big hug I got from her this morning. I could feel the love flowing through her into me
    • The muffin we shared because we we’re running late for church

 

  • My Job: Though it’s not ideal, it affords me  the opportunity to handle my responsibilities. A lot of persons are home sending out hundreds of resumes in hopes that they can get even a mediocre job so that they can take care of their expenses.

Each day is truly a blessing and to realize that, we must focus more on the positives. I know it’s easy to focus on the negative things that are happening in our lives because they’re in our face, but for every bad thing that has happened to us, there are three or more good things that has happened or will happen. It’s just a matter of perspective really.

As you go throughout your day, I leave you with this quote:

The more elevated the soul, the broader the outlook.

~Hazrat Khan

 

 

 

Being a Woman

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Men
Could you at least stare at me when you’re talking and not at my chest?!
What’s up with those cheesy pickup lines. Can’t you try to be original?

Is it too much to ask to walk down the street without being verbally harassed

Do you want to get to know me, or just know enough to shag me?

Do my breasts or butt have a “grab me” sign on them?
When you look at me do you immediately think “inferior”, “weak”, “sex object“?

Menstrual
Another month…another week of cramps.
My emotions are heightened. I’m easily annoyed.
Why do you get upset when I’m being a cranky, hormonal bitch? Why can’t you understand that this is how I was made — emotions come with the territory.

Sex
You’re always horny.
Am I your real-life sex doll?
Why can’t you just sit and talk with me? Who cares if I shoot off a thousand words per minute.
You’re done already? What about me? I would like to have multiple orgasms too, if that’s too much to ask, then ONE will suffice. I like being caressed too.
Why is having a threesome with another guy suddenly taboo? You talk about having one with two girls all the time.
How about we spice things up a bit. Let’s have sex in the car park of the theatre.

After having some talks with some of my female friends, they shared some of the trials of being a woman. Ladies, feel free to add anything that I’ve missed. :)

 

The Role of a Father

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The role of a father is vital and paramount in determining how our children turn out. Don’t get me wrong, a mother’s role is as important in any family, hands down, but studies have shown that when a father is missing from a household, the likelihood of the children, especially the boys, acting out increases.

Did you know that:

  • the frequency of fathers that read to their children increases their children’s interest in books
  • fathers exert greater education influence than mothers on boys’ educational choices
  • fathers who are involved, nurturing and playful with their infants have children with highers IQs as well as better linguistic and cognitive capacities
  • 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.  (Criminal Justice & Behavior Vol 14. p 403-26)
  • 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept of Justice, Special Report, 1988)
  • 85% of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes

So how can we address this problem?

Firstly, the decision to have a child should be thought through in its entirety with your partner. Children are not accessories you pick up at the store. If you decide to become a parent, that child is your responsibility. You must do all that you can to ensure that that child has a bright and positive future. Parents should listen to their children. Give them chores at all levels to teach responsibility. Spend time doing the things they love to do — if the child is more interested in the performing arts, don’t force him/her to watch football every Sunday.

In closing, I leave you with two quotes:

It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.

~Ann Landers

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

~Theodore Hesburgh

 

Until next time…Namaste!

 

Unequally Yoked

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2 Corinthians 6:14 says:

14. Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?

15. Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?

That passage is so rigid. Is it impossible for a non-christian to be with a christian and have a healthy relationship? I find that some of the text in the bible is a bit extreme. For example, in the above passage, unbelievers (hate that word because you can be a believer but not a christian) non-Christians are described as lawless and dark. I haven’t done a survey or gathered statistical data on the issue, but I’m sure that there are some really pure at heart non-Christians in the world. Some even purer that Christians (thunder crackling).

So I asked someone to explain this strict passage and they said that when you’re in an unequally yoked relationship (a christian and a non-christian), though the relationship might be great, you [the christian] will not grow “spiritually”. For example, when the christian in the relationship is falling short in faith, what can the non-christian do? They will not be able to offer that spiritual support rock that the christian needs. The non-christian cannot intercede on their partner’s behalf because he/she lacks the spiritual conviction needed to do so. Hmm…

What are your thoughts on the matter?

Until next time….namaste!

Vous êtes nos femmes

OK, so you guys might remember in some distant post I mentioned that I will be studying French. Well, I still am. And it’s so much fun. I am teaching myself through this awesome website — www.duolinguo.com. You can learn other languages on it as well like Spanish, German, Italian etc.

Anyway, the title — vous êtes nos femmes, translates to “You are our wives”. Someone (who from here henceforth, we shall call SmartGuy) commented:

General rule I find works: if it’s sounding a bit misogynistic/chauvinistic to say “woman/women”, “wife/wives” is probably a more appropriate translation.

 

I thought to myself, either SmartGuy doesn’t understand the meaning of the word misogyny, or he/she wants to appear smart. So, because I’m just an average Joe, I decided to look up the definition of the word:

mi·sog·y·ny

noun \mə-ˈsä-jə-nē\

 

: reflecting or exhibiting hatred, dislike, mistrust, or

mistreatment of women.

 

Still perplexed by the sheer complexity of SmartGuys analysis, I saw this comment from (we’ll call this person NormalGuy):

I totally disagree that “our women” is misogynistic. In fact, the presumption that the word “our” (possessive) converts women to wives is what is misogynistic. What would I do if I were speaking at a gathering of women professionals, and I wanted to say something like: “You, the members of this organization, you are our women, and we hope…” I hear stuff like this all the time. “Wives” is clearly inappropriate in this context.

 

I agree with NormalGuy’s point. That loose translation would be offensive in certain setting. For years, women have fought to be acknowledged as men’s equal and after all they have accomplished with regards to equality, to be labeled as mere “wives” on a whim would just be intolerable.

Feel free to chime in.

Until next time…Namaste!